" When people get married because they think it's a long-time love affair, they'll be divorced very soon, because all love affairs end in disappointment. But marriage is a recognition of a spiritual identity."

—Joseph Campbell—

After more than twenty-five years of marriage, during which we have experienced incredible highs, very challenging lows, and most everything in between, we have come to realize that having a happy, fulfilling marriage is not about finding the right person, but about being the right person. In the beginning, we both thought that the other person was the one who needed to change.

All along we should have been able to see what was interfering with our ability to be more balanced, intimate, and loving, but we did not know how. As we learned to understand each other’s relational styles, we were far more able to face the difficult issues in our marriage. Along the way, we learned how to be honest with each other, with love and humor. Over time, we both have gotten our needs met, and we are now the best of friends.

If you and your partner are interested in discovering the secret to creating a happy relationship, we recommend beginning with a series of sixteen life-coaching sessions. During the first session, which you only pay for if you continue working with us, we will meet with you both by telephone to determine your relational styles. We will listen to the problem areas in your relationship, and the goals you would like to reach in order to feel more fulfilled, both individually, and as a couple. Then, we will describe how we plan to work with you for the remaining sessions.

If you chose to partner with us in a coaching relationship, we will support you to create a new beginning in your relationship. As you both become aware of your relational styles, at your best and worst, you will discover the level playing field that exists in your relationship. Instead of seeing each other as either "good" or "bad", you will be able to reflect outside the box of your usual reactions, and approach each other from your natural centers.

Almost all the conflicts that couples experience occur because both people are trying to "lay" their relational style on the other person. Our method of couples counseling will empower you to break this self-defeating tendency. You will then be able to face the issues in your relationship with less judgment, and more honesty and trust. Instead of blaming each other, you be able to work things out more easily, as genuine friends and life partners.

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